To stay healthy, people will do everything short of quarantining themselves to avoid getting coughed on, sneezed on, or breathed on by the sickly. As a parent, you’re probably well aware of how quickly contagious diseases like the flu can travel through a family—nay, a neighborhood. Teachers notice the same thing when they see student after student calling in sick until the class is but a mere figment of the imagination.
Research has also shown that in the workplace, one negative employee can spoil the bunch. A negative outlook on anything, whether it’s the administration, a client, or a department, can affect the morale of everyone around.
So what does this have to do with families? Believe it or not, the same research that shows how a negative attitude can “catch on” in families just as easily as it does in the office.
Tips for Parents
- Let your child know if you are undergoing stress that has nothing to do with them. For example, if you have a headache when they come home from school, tell them about it. Warn them that you may be a bit grouchier than normal, but that it’s not their fault. This will minimize the contagiousness of your negative emotions.
- Educate your family members about what to do when one is upset. “You can’t always change the person who is emoting,” says Corneau. “You need to teach others in your family to recognize that it’s not them, what people do and say isn’t their fault, even if they’re the receiver of all of it.”
- Corneau emphasizes that some children are more sensitive than others. Zero in on a child who strongly picks up energies in the house, even if they are not directed at her. Help her learn to identify when people are in a bad mood, and try to support her through the bad days of other family members.
- If one person’s mood seems to be contagious on a regular basis, support her and encourage her to get help. This might include seeing a therapist or trying to fix the issues that are causing the negative emotions (e.g., changing jobs, switching classes, finding new friends).
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Another year is quickly passing us by and yet when I reach out into the community both in Belize and in the Diaspora, I see the same shit happening. People finding faults in each other and trying to bring down the other person while they make all excuses in the book to applaud and protect criminal leaders and allow them to drag the nation further down the mud pit. Instead of making ourselves stronger as a people we are allowing ourselves to be divided and conquered; hell in fact we are doing it to ourselves and asking for it to be done in the areas that we can’t do it ourselves. This article is not only for people in Belize, but for anyone that wants to see their community get better. Some tips will work for you, some won’t; it depends on where you live on this rock we call home.
As time slips us by, instead of being jerks and bullies to each other; how about we step back and outside the cages that have been built for us. Let’s stop treating each other like animals and shit and start to build our community. It’s not as hard as you think it to be, it’s actually easy as heck and all it takes is you (myself included) being willing to do it. Far too long have we allowed this single unit minded brainwashing to take us over and break down the very fabric of our society. Children watch and learn from their parents and others in the community they grow up in.
Loving your neighbors is to be a family and is far beyond DNA connection.
Blood may be thicker than water, but love, kindness, trust and ability to empathize with each other in the face of every adversity is what we should call my family.
– Kemmy Nola
Continue reading “Building your Community Spirit”
Mom, your birthday means so much to me;
To have you in my life another year,
The time I spent enfolded in your love,
Each day, each moment with you is so dear.I cherish the very special bond we have.
You lift my spirit in so many ways.
I celebrate your life; I honor you,
And send to you my love and care and praise.
Original post by: Stephen Okeke
BIG CHAT ON LOVE FM AND A PROJECT FOR PERSONALIZED DELIVERY OF CONDOMS TO MINORS
Does encouraging minors like 12 or 13yrs olds to secretly use facebook to access condoms in order to have sex if their parents or shops refuse to sell it to them constitute an abatement to commit a crime? Since the big chat persons know, or should know that sex by or with minors is illegal. Although they claim we should give them this facility because “we already know they are having sex.” Does delivering it to them constitute an abatement to commit a crime?
While I think that it is wrong to condone underage sex and find it appalling that we are now being pulled into the system steering our children and youths on their path; raising children should be left to parents, not the Govt or any other “Business” …. I must add this.. We live in a society where it WILL happen despite your parenting work at one point or another.. Society has reached a level where parents are not around 24×7 and because of the influences all around, children are more out there about everything and will experiment. Continue reading “My take on Personalized Delivery of Condoms to Minors”
I remember these days clearly, despite growing up in Belize the basis is the same.
I still have those values instilled in me and use them with my son, save for the going out and playing until nightfall seeing how the safety is a huge issue now.
via Momma Be Thy Name
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