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Why are we afraid of speaking up?

Today more than even it is evident that what is right is no longer going to be what is said or done for the most part. Why is that so?

For decades we have been and continue to be brainwashed into thinking that unless we are following the tide of what is considered “NORMAL” that we are wrong, even if what we believe in is right. This process is made up of two parts called Political Correctness and Victimization; things I wrote about a bit ago and I think it’s time to revisit.

Many will think that because you don’t speak up or don’t ask the hard questions it’s because you are afraid of the person or thing; well yes, to some extent that is true. But to fully understand that fear we need to ask ourselves why that fear in the first place?

I have some theories mostly based on factual evidence.
1.) Political abuse – as far as politics goes, we all know damn well that the moment you speak up against a political figure or affiliate you WILL get the sense. Sometimes this happens without even saying a word, you simply have to practice your right to vote and it happens. Talk to the numerous people who have either lost their jobs right after elections or who have been slandered, raided, arrested because of politics.
2.) Societal abuse – Fear of being attacked for saying something that opposes the topic of the day. Speak honestly about your opposition for something that causes controversy and you are labeled as something negative before you even finish your sentence. I’ve known people who have been branded as racists, bigots, phobes, etc..
3.) Brainwashing – We have been brought up by the folks of old not to question authority, not to search for the truth, quite literally “Do NOT be yourself” You must follow line and do not deviate.
4.) Miseducation – We as a people have been failed as far as education of the important aspects of civil society. The people have no damn idea what their rights as a citizen of their nation is much less how to practice those rights if they do know them. Those that know, exploit that ignorance for their own person.
5.) Plain old damn Laziness – This comes in combination to one or more of the above, people don’t know and refuse to learn; people see issues and refuse to take the chance that they may not be victimized. Everybody waits for someone else to do it for them.

Many issues are plaguing our nations and WE are failing ourselves and each other but most importantly our children… By silencing yourself on issues, you silence your children and their future.


  • You’re walking down the street, you see a man hitting a woman. You think “Hm, I glad that that’s not me, I should do something but I might get attacked.” and then go about your business.
  • You know your children are in gangs or committing crimes but yet you defend them to the end even when the evidence is stacked against them.

Ever hear these used?

  • “You think you’re so smart!” (with a negative edge)
  • “Little boys/girls should be seen and not heard”
  • “That’s the craziest thing I’ve ever heard”
  • “What do you know!!” (with a negative dismissal)
  • “Not now, I’m busy (i.e., what you have to say isn’t important)
  • “Who told you that?!” (skepticism)
  • “Don’t say such a thing” (how can you say such a thing!)
  • “I don’t believe you.”
  • “You better not talk like that”
  • “God will punish you for saying/thinking that”
  • “That’s not a nice/good/ thing to say.”
  • “That’s not true; you’re stupid”
  • “What a crazy idea!”
  • “You don’t make any sense”
  • “You think you’re so smart!(sarcastically)
  • “You don’t think straight”
  • “You’re crazy!”
  • “What makes you think that way!”
  • “You don’t have half a brain”
  • “For someone so smart, you’re really stupid!”
  • “you’re an idiot!”
  • etc.

political correctnessavoidance of expressions or actions that can be perceived to exclude or marginalize or insult people who are socially disadvantaged or discriminated against.
victimizationto be made a victim of.

What we have done, unconsciously, is to create a self-representation, a self-image, a self-concept, really, an identity, that I am not credible, or I’m not smart, or intelligent. Our belief is, “I’m the stupid one.“, or (fill in the blank).

So, in order to be heard, seen, recognized, “met”, accepted, acknowledged or approved, many of us feel that having our own voice is not enough, that we are inadequate. So, to compensate for our sense of deficiency, we feel we have to bolster what we say and support our thoughts with other “experts’ information so we can be seen as “somebody” as opposed to being a “nobody”, stupid, someone who knows nothing, someone who is not very intelligent, wise, or smart.

Thus, many of us go through life silently, for example, remaining quiet at meetings, never writing our book, our poetry, our play, our music, deferring to others (the “experts”), and we remain fear-based, feeling insignificant, stupid, and frustrated, silently or overtly angry because we don’t feel “heard”,  because we feel we don’t “know enough” or “have the right information.” We just don’t have a good sense of our self.

– CayoBuay

2 thoughts on “Why are we afraid of speaking up?”

  1. I whole-heartedly agree with your comments. Political correctness in many cases is keeping us from doing what is morally and honestly the right thing to do, because of the perception of vicitimizing others. Yes indeed, there are victims in our society of various abuses, however, if we cannot move beyond looking at certain groups as victims we will never see them as equals or contributing members of our society. That is one of of the downsides of not speaking out.

    1. Thanks for your comment.

      “if we cannot move beyond looking at certain groups as victims we will never see them as equals or contributing members of our society”

      Love that line..

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